Boosting your child’s Emotional Intelligence
“ Emotional intelligence begins to develop in the earliest years. All the small exchanges children have with their parents, teachers, and with each other carry emotional messages.” – Daniel Goleman.
Developing Emotional Intelligence at Center of Excellence @BGSIAS
Undoubtedly, the emotional well-being of a child is of absolute importance, especially in the current pandemic situation. BGSIAS, strives to provide a holistic learning experience that integrates socio-emotional, physical, and cognitive development. Guided by the International Baccalaureate Learner Profile and IGCSE curriculum, socio-emotional learning is embedded in the curriculum as well as taught specifically.
At COE – BGSIAS, learners are encouraged to express themselves using various strands such as art, music, photography, or videography. Especially, these provide a healthy outlet for expressing and letting go of all their feelings and fears.
Soft skills such as time management, communication, interpersonal and leadership skills, conflict management, and stress management skills are nurtured in learners with a wide range of activities, based on their age group. Learners participate in various activities like role play, interpersonal communication games, team games which help them develop soft skills. The public speaking skill which is of utmost importance is encouraged from a very young age. As a result, students are groomed to be caring, empathetic, self-aware, open-minded, and excellent communicators.
What is Emotional Intelligence?
Emotional Intelligence is the ability to recognise, evaluate, control, and express emotions efficiently and positively.
A high level of emotional intelligence helps the child to communicate better, lessen anxiety and stress, resolve conflicts, improve relationships, empathise with others, make decisions, and handle the transitions faced.
Emotional intelligence involves:
- Emotional literacy: Recognising your own feelings and the feelings of others.
- Managing emotions: Ability to control your emotions effectively.
- Developing empathy: Sense and understand other people’s emotions.
- Intrinsic motivation: Pushing yourself harder to achieve the goals, set by yourself.
How to start building Emotional Intelligence in your child?
Stop and identify emotions: Talk about what your child is feeling and help him/her name the emotion like anger, happiness, sadness, frustration, etc.
Listen to your child’s feelings: Ask how a situation has made him/her feel and why.
Empathise with your child: Your child must know that you empathise with him/her. Try saying, “It sounds like you’re surprised!” or “You seem disappointed right now”. Step into the child’s shoes and talk about how your child is feeling.
Teach problem-solving: Help your child reflect on his or her emotions to know what makes him or her feel a precise way. Find solutions to any challenges all together.
Lead by example: Communicate better with your child. Opening up about your own feelings, the reasons behind those feelings, and how you deal with it will help bridge gaps between you and your child.
Why is Emotional Intelligence important for students?
Students with higher levels of emotional intelligence can understand themselves better and relate to others around them. This will help them develop self-motivation and more effective communication skills which are essential to help students become more confident learners.
On the other hand, students who lack emotional intelligence can become less connected to school, negatively affecting their performance.
Improving emotional intelligence in children can help them:
- Improve self-awareness: Being aware of their emotions and how they affect them.
- Managing stress: Recognise what is causing stress and how to solve it.
- Self-motivation: Pushing themselves to meet the goals they have set.
- Building empathy: Understanding and sharing the feelings of other people.
- Make good decisions: Using their emotions to build the best path.
- Communicate effectively: Using verbal and non-verbal cues to communicate with others.
- Building relationships: Being aware of others’ emotions and interacting appropriately
- Social and emotional well-being describes the positive effect resulting from strong social relationships and good psychological health.
Social and emotional well-being in youngsters, in this digital age, has been a growing concern in recent years.